This past weekend I went to a wedding of a family friend. My mom wanted me to come to talk to her friend's son, and at first I wasn't sure if she was trying to set me up, or if it really was because we both went to UCSD, and he works at Disney so she thought it'd help. Either way, it was slightly a bust - but thanks for trying, mom. There are a few things that I did learn this weekend - mostly more to add to the do and don't wants of my wedding (which is not happening annnnytime soon - but I guess I can still have a list.)

1. During the opening reception/cocktails/dinner part - I don't think I just want lovey dovey songs on the playlist. I know it's all supposed to set the mood - but slightly cheesy don't you think?

2. Lots of alcohol will be involved. Lots.

3. Even though Dorina hates it as a wedding song, I still might play Canon in D. The first time I heard it for a wedding march song was at my sister's wedding. I thought she was so ingenious for doing it. Every wedding I've been to since then does it. Was this something I just never really knew about before? Or was my sister ahead of the trend. Either way - this song elicits a severly emotional reaction from me. And it's not like I bawl or anything, but I tear up, kind of a lot. This is severe for me though, because I'm not really a crier. But funny thing is that they played the song (which is so pretty), and I started tearing up (thank goodness for sunglasses), and then started thinking about how funny it would be if the bride's poofy dress knocked over one of the vases with a candle in it lining the walkway and caused a giant fire and started to snicker. This is me at weddings.

4. I'd probably want to have "us" write our own vows. I say probably because I am not a writer. I can't really do anything but cheesy. So real emotional words that I have to repeat in front of everyone I know? Forget about it. However, I think the standard "til death do us part" speech can be kind of... insincere - so where's the happy medium?

5. I'd probably want an outdoor wedding, and if it is - do you mic everyone involved? I know it's not like The Bachelor wedding or anything - but it's also boring if you can't hear what's going on - and I don't want to be yelling or anything. That's something I haven't put a lot of thought into, but seems like one of those important things.

6. Not so much a do/don't - but something I "learned".. in quotes because it's probably something I already knew, but never ceases to amaze me. Chinese parents are judg.ey. How many times did I get asked when it's my turn? Who am I going to marry? How much conversation did I need to endure about who I look like? Who I act like? That I'm better looking and comments on my facial features? How I've evolved and changed and now I'm more "lady like"? How I compare to my sister? How I compare to their kids? Yes, I am different than the loud-mouthed little girl who would come to your house - but not by much, I just know how to keep it in check better. A little. And you're just going to wait on that wedding of mine. But I should have it soon so my parents can invite all their friends and recoup the money that they've given as gifts.

7. I definitely want to keep the whole aisle way down the middle thing. So my outdoor locale will just have to accommodate that. It just seems more efficient for being seen and people's viewing pleasure.

8. If you're going to have a dance floor inside, don't put the bar outside. I know where my friends will choose if forced.